Somewhere between childhood and where you are today, something significant happened.
You bought into the myth of the self-made person.
This wasnât your fault. Our culture loves that story. We admire the entrepreneur who âpulled themselves up by their own bootstraps,â even though that phrase was originally meant to illustrate something impossible. From Andrew Carnegie to Oprah Winfrey, we latch onto the stories about successful people who made it on their own.
Except, they didnât.
Look closely at almost any successful person, youâll find support from a community. Maybe not the one they were born into, but the one they found or created for themselves. And they stayed successful because they didnât isolate themselves once they had âmade it.â
How did we get here?
Whatâs the first show you remember from your childhood?
Whether it was Captain Kangaroo, Mister Rogersâ Neighborhood, or Sesame Street; or Rugrats or Little Bear; or even The Backyardigans for you post-millennials, while your earliest entertainment was teaching you letters, numbers, and how to share crayons without starting preschool turf war, it was also teaching you the value of community.
Ask for help when you need it.
Share what you know.
Redirect someone when theyâre about to get hurt.
Celebrate with your people.
Show up and help when things go wrong.
Somewhere along the way, though, we grew up and started equating professionalism and self-sufficiency.
We started acting like being capable meant not needing anyone.
And thatâs cost us.
The loneliness of firm ownership
As adults, we still know community is important. Stories and books about the âloneliness epidemicâ are becoming increasingly prevalent online and in airport bookstores. Suggestions to counteract it fill our social media feeds. Ironically, even though weâve built a world where tools for connection abound, humans feel more disconnected than ever before.
And if youâre a business owner – especially an accounting or bookkeeping firm owner – you might be feeling that disconnection stronger than your traditionally-employed colleagues.
When youâre an employee, community often forms around you almost by default. You have coworkers. Shared meetings. Inside jokes, Slack threads. Someone always has snacks, and that person may or may not be the one who sends Instagram Reels that are just a little too accurate.
You see these people every weekday. Work is what brought you together, but connection often grows from there.
When youâre the firm owner, things are different.
You might have a flat hierarchy in your firm, but youâre still âthe boss.â You might have a great company culture, but thereâs still a separation between you and your team.
There are certain things you just canât share with your team. There are questions you canât casually process in front of them. There are worries you have to hold carefully because your words carry more weight than you sometimes want them to.
The âcommunityâ that naturally arises between employees doesnât exist for you as the leader of the firm.
This leaves you alone, even when youâre surrounded by your employees.
And when youâre alone for too long, it starts to shape the way you lead.
You second-guess decisions longer than you need to.
You tolerate client behavior you know you should address.
You keep pricing that no longer supports the firm.
You drift from the service model you meant to build.
You convince yourself that everyone else has figured out something you somehow missed.
Usually, they havenât.
They just might have a better room to tell the truth in.
When your community isnât a community
Maybe youâre thinking, âI already have a community!â
Maybe you do. But letâs take a closer look.
Chamber of commerce meetings? Great for visibility, referrals, lunch-and-learns, and the occasional surprisingly good buffet cookie. But theyâre not so great for deeper conversations about advisory pricing, team capacity, scope creep, or client resistance with professionals in your field.
Mastermind groups? Usually those are focused on specific business challenges and donât foster the sort of sharing that can form connections outside of the meetings.
Business-focused social media groups? Those can be helpful on a good day. But on a bad day, they can turn into gripe sessions, humblebrag arenas, or – in the worst cases – the place newer professionals refuse to go because theyâve seen others get shamed for asking a question that was âtoo basic.â
As business owners, a lot of what we call community is really just proximity.
A shared label.
A recurring meeting.
A social media feed.
A room full of people who technically have something in common, but no real commitment to each otherâs growth.
Thatâs not community. Thatâs being alone together.
What happens in a ârealâ community
A real professional community makes you feel included. But it does so much more than that.
It helps you maintain clarity.
It gives you access to people who understand what youâre building well enough to tell you the truth without needing your full backstory.
It helps you see patterns faster because, instead of being limited to your own experience, you can tap into the wins and challenges of other firm owners.
It raises your standards without turning growth into a performance.
It lets you borrow courage until your own catches up.
And, perhaps most importantly, it gives you a place to be competent and âin progressâ at the same time.
As an accounting professional, youâre carrying more than technical work. Youâre helping business owners make better decisions. Youâre talking about cash flow, profit, debt, pricing, compensation, taxes, fear, habits, and all the little stories people tell themselves about money.
Youâre doing deeply human work. And deeply human work cannot be sustained in isolation.
How community fits in the age of AI
As the business world sprints toward AI and automation, community will become even more important.
AI can give you a summary, a script, a checklist, a better subject line, a meeting agenda, a client email, and a process map.
But it canât look at you across a Zoom room and say, âI know why youâre avoiding that conversation, and I also know you need to have it today.â
It canât tell you, from lived experience, what happened when someone else changed their pricing model.
It canât help you feel less alone when a client relationship falls apart, a team member resigns, or you start to wonder if the pressure brought on by your firmâs growth is really worth it.
It canât create the accountability that comes from being with the people who understand the work.
Technology can support your firm, but community helps support YOU.
The Profit First Professionals community
Accounting professionals need more than information, training, tools, and frameworks. They need each other.
Call us biased, but we think Profit First Professionals is the best professional association for accounting professionals. Yes, we offer information, training, tools, and frameworks. We also offer certification, technology, brand differentiation, and one-to-one coaching as our members work on their advisory offers in particular and on their firms in general.
But we also offer community. And our community is the X factor that Profit First Professionals members say gives them the biggest ROI on their membership investment.
Community is where members see what other members are trying.
Itâs where wins are celebrated by people who actually understand what they took.
Itâs where firm owners can be honest without posturing.
And itâs where professionals who are doing deeply human work with their clients get to experience some human support themselves.
If youâre looking for a professional community that is really a community – one that will hold you steady even as the ground seems to be shifting under your feet – book a Discovery Call with us.
Weâre happy to share, neighbor.


